plot twist: with your cousin
No, it takes certain people
Did option 2 for 5 unhappy years,now happy in option 1
I have it. My gf is kinda an introvert. A little shy. But in bed I can do whatever I want with her + she likes the (experimental) sex.
You gotta find the one. Who has same energy and kinkyness as you. It's hard, but not impossible
No, definitely impossible to have both at the same time.
It's the dilemma that makes men doubt about relationships :)
Uh no I need both.
I'm very vanilla myself, but I have a fascination with kink and all the bizarre things that people get off on, so I've read a lot. The kink community say it's very possible, so long as you're both into the same thing. The more niche your kink, the harder to find a match.