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nemacyte

My father barely ever interacted with me. As a child I thought he never cared about me. As an adult I understand now that he was a closet alcoholic with serious mental issues. The only times he interacted with me was when I messed up. Called me things that makes look "stupid" tame. He never interacted with me because he wanted to protect me from his mental issues. So he left the child raising part to my mother. There was just one flaw in his plan. That my mother was a schizophrenic narcissist with bipolar Syndrom. She seriously is not capable of loving anything but herself. The only reason she cared about me was because she wanted to look like a good mother from the outside. She lost custody of my younger brothers now. To neighbours and strangers she acts like the sweet old lady that was robbed of her children. But if she is left alone with them she acts like they don't even exist. Only paying attention if they make trouble for HER. Doesn't care if it effects other family members.

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e_0

The fuck has this to do with pronouns? fuck u op

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cha0sbreaker

It does work. It's a struggle but it works. Be aware of yourself. Never become lazy and act on autopilot, because THATS when you slip up. You will make mistakes, but you will learn from them and be (healthy) critical of yourself. Don't accept yourself doing a shit job, but don't condemn yourself for making a mistake. Communicate with your children. Your spouse. And most important of all, with YOURSELF. Thats the real gamechanger. I'd advise everyone with this challenge or something like it to read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. You will not regret it.

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harnnonx5

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boobfartmcfap

Sure, lets act like we have nothing to say in that matter and avoid responsibility for our actions. Sounds fun and easy.

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shamgod

I'm 25, already had a vasectomy 4 years ago, i don't want no kid , but even if eventually i want to have children someday (which i don't think will happen) , i rather adopt than having a biological child. Thank god my gf don't want children either.

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thatguy237

If your kid would've end up having preferred pronouns, you're doing the world a favor by not having them.

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vasilalexnikol

Well they both can happen. The top one is common especially if you hate your parents behavior and make it a goal not to be like them. The second one is equally common and it's just fear of repeating the cycle.

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sircrysalot

How to break the cycle

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