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My parents are still messing me up. I am teaching the things they taught me to my kids and now they are saying that it is not good. Even claiming this was not their way.
Only to failures
Depends
Sometimes. Mostly only if you’re the sort of person who sees ‘less than optimal in every single way’ as ‘messed up’. Most people are fine. With flaws. That’s not ‘messed up’.
And that's ok. No matter how perfect or careful you are, you are still a flawed human being: and some of those flaws will affect your children. It's a natural part of parenting.
Our personality is our unique set of scars from our child traumas. Our strong sides and our weaknesses. Our priorities and our fears. All these was created by different traumas. If you exclude traumas from your child life - you grow up not a person, but an "empty place". This is something you can see around already. What you should do is to understand - what traumas and for what purpose (what should it add to your kid personality) you create. And don't create traumas that just mess them up or that they can't handle. And you will make mistakes anyway.
Don't work when just one of both failed and fall back in the mistakes their parents maked. So life is fucked. No matter what you do.
Doesn’t matter when god hates you in particular
Usually yes, its true.
False. People can mess up the exact same way their parents did, even while trying hard no to do it.